In Her Own Words
About Her
Hello, I'm Boetebessie.
Firstly, I am not Afrikaans - I just thought Boetebessie was an hilarious name.
I'm brainy, breasty, funny, flaky, pretty, open-minded, bright, articulate, and in it for the long haul...
I have a brain and I love to absorb new ideas and ways of being. I can hold my own in conversations and offer a lively and stimulating debate without being argumentative.
I am spiritually aware and have a keen interest in metaphysics and transpersonal psychology particularly mindfulness. I have a counselling practice that includes energy psychology. I am also a techno-slut (let it never be said that you were not warned!) I also teach English as a second language.
I love animals and children and am excellent with them. My toy dog is the apple of my eye and sleeps in the bed with me. It wouldn't be wise to ask me to choose between you and him. He needs me more.
I am seeking a man of immodest means (and for those less eloquent, may I articulate that this would be financial means, with a Barney attitude that "caring is sharing") with an equally immodest psyche to keep my pseudo-intellectual habit going. I am independent and un-clingy so I would be happy for you to spend time playing sport or with your your friends. If fact, this would be a necessity as I enjoy my own time.
I could use many words to describe my temperament, but I would be different with everyone - so you'd need to meet me or chat online with me to get a sense of me. I will always endeavour to treat people with dignity and integrity
Honesty would be of paramount importance...
There is also no such thing as insufferably neat!
We would be friends, lovers, companions, partners, parents and fellow travellers on this journey called life. We all need someone to love.
Don't we all need one person to travel with us?
About Her Ideal Match
I am looking for an integritous relationship with someone who is not a pauper financially, emotionally, intellectually, physically and existentially. If you are a fat cat with a PhD in the social sciences, are excellent to ogle at and double as a flake - you're in! If not, contact me anyway.
I want a relationship with prospects of sharing and caring for one another, while maintaining individual autonomy - i.e. a healthy interdependence over time. I also want to (need to ) be looked after financially (my love language) and you will have your needs (your love language) met in a mindful, conscious and practical way.
I like gentle and soulful types - those who are able to consider themselves and be with themselves (don't get jumpy when they have an hour to themselves) and can also be with me without having to engage with me each minute that we are together.
A good sense of humour is a must as when the shit hits the fan we need to be able to laugh at it. There is also no forgiveness for kicking the catties when your shit hits the fan.
A normative IQ would be nice too so we can chat about things intelligent and connect. The capacity to spell is a plus and the ability to use an apostrophe in the correct place holds a lot of clout for me...
Flag me or message me and let's see where it goes...
What Her Friends Say
Niki said...
Lindsey is unique in many ways and has a lot to offer on various levels. She is an excellent listener, very honest and calm. Her gentle demeanor will relax you and her non judgmental approach to life will win you over.
About Her
Country of Origin: |
South Africa | |
Location: |
Southern Peninsula (Fish Hoek), Cape Town, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
51 | |
Star Sign: |
Gemini | |
Height: |
163cm (5' 4.2") | |
Body Type: |
Full figured | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair Colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Blue-Green | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
English | |
Other Languages: |
Afrikaans; German | |
Religion: |
Other | |
Relationship Status: |
Single | |
Looking for: |
Open to possibilities; Short-term; Long-term; Marriage | |
Have Children: |
No | |
Want Children: |
No | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | |
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | |
Education: |
Postgraduate degree | |
Occupation: |
Self-employed | |
Income: |
Enough |
About Her Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
City Bowl; Southern Peninsula; Southern Suburbs (Western Cape, South Africa) | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age Range: |
40 - 70 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
163cm (5' 4.2") - 194cm (6' 4.4") | ||
Body Type: |
Any | ||
Looks: |
Very Attractive; Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair Colour: |
Dark Brown; Greying; Grey; White; Shaved | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Moderately important | ||
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | ||
Home Language: |
English; German; Hebrew | ||
Other Languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Buddhist / Taoist; Christian / Other; Jewish; Spiritual, but not religious | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have Children: |
Any | ||
Want Children: |
No | ||
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things; Eat healthily; Vegetarian; Kosher | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | ||
Drinking: |
Non-Drinker; Occasional Drinker | ||
Education: |
Bachelors degree; Postgraduate degree; PhD / Post Doctoral | ||
Occupation: |
Artistic / Musical / Writer; Executive / Management; Finance; Legal; Medical / Dental; Retired; Self-employed; Teacher / Professor; Other | ||
Income: |
Comfortable; Wealthy; Fat cat |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More About Her
Hair Style: |
Long; Straight; Well-behaved |
Eyesight: |
I've got 20/20 vision |
Disabilities: |
I have a mental condition |
Body Art: |
Pierced ears; Navel ring; A tattoo or two |
Sense of Humour: |
Witty |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The heart |
Party Behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality Traits: |
Cautious; Daring; Easy going; Funny; Intelligent; Naive; Outgoing; Outspoken; Quiet; Realistic |
Valued Qualities: |
Charity; Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Hope; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Moderation; Patience; Self-control; Sexiness; Tolerance |
Fashion Sense: |
Alternative (I'm stylish in my own special way) |
Favourite Clothing: |
My pyjamas |
Favourite Colour: |
Orange |
Date Activities: |
Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks |
Music Preferences: |
Alternative; Classical; Dance / Disco; Electronic Dance Music; Folk; New Age; Opera; Pop / Top 40; Rock; World |
Reading: |
There's nothing better |
Books: |
(Auto)biographies; Best-sellers; Fiction; Non-fiction; Religious; Romance; Science / Technology; Self-help |
TV Habits: |
I don't have a TV |
TV Shows: |
Comedy / Sit-coms; Dramas; Educational; Movie Channels; Music Channels |
Movie Frequency: |
Occasionally or irregularly |
Movie Preferences: |
Adult; Art Films; Comedy; Cult Classics; Drama; Independent; Mystery; Romance; Sci-Fi |
Interests: |
Board games; Card games; Computer & video games; Computer programming; Cooking; Gardening; Healthy living; Meditation; Painting; Photography; Reading; Shopping; Surfing the Internet; Writing books; Yoga |
Sport Involvement: |
Not involved at all |
Sports: |
Camping; Horse Riding; Pool; Tennis; Volleyball; Walking |
Cooking: |
I quite like cooking |
Food: |
Chinese; German; Greek; Italian; Japanese; Seafood; South African; Sushi; Thai |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Go with the flow |
Time at Work: |
I work part-time |
Pastimes of choice: |
Doing absolutely nothing |
Time Online: |
I'm online more than I'm offline |
Take Drugs: |
Not any more |
Family Size: |
I've got brothers and sisters |
Family Closeness: |
We're dysfunctional |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'd consider it |
Animals: |
I love my pet(s) |
Pets (Have): |
Dog(s) |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Cat(s); Exotic pet(s); Fish; Horse(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Dancing; Erotica; Flirting; Intelligence; Long hair; Showing affection in public; Skinny dipping; Wealth |
Turn-offs: |
Sarcasm |
Work Aspirations: |
I already have my ideal job |
Religious Attendance: |
Rarely |
Dream Home: |
Cabin in the mountains |
Politics: |
Liberal |
Retirement Plans: |
Finally writing that novel |
Feelings about using DatingBuzz South Africa: |
Hopeful; Curious; Optimistic; Excited |
Honesty: |
Extremely |
