In Her Own Words
About Her
Hmmm tough one but i will give you a taste of where i'm coming from and you can decide. As i get older i find the whole love thing more and more frustrating, as a kid love is this exciting beautiful romantic notion of everlasting happiness. Then as a young adult you make connections and walk on cloud nine high on life till you bump into the reason for your happiness at a bar with another woman/man. Entering your 30's you feel more educated and realistic about love and look for someone to settle down with, we enter the period of marriage and children and face a whole new set of challenges of cheating , abusive or drunk spouses and realise once again this is not the fairtale we originally signed up for, so as we move on through our 30's and face divorces and new jobs , challenging economies , maintenance and bonds where do we find ourselves in terms of real love? People stay in shitty marriages for kids or money, or toxic relationships for fear of being alone at 30 something in an ever dwindling dating pool of divorcees, drunks , abususers, etc. The problem here is where you find the most damaged toxic people who have come out of doomed relationships/ marriages and now have to pretend to be these amazing individuals just to attract attention. Those are the worst sort of people the ones who have perfected the art of lying, cheating and betrayal. And so in a technology driven society where hook ups and cheating have been made easier than ever i find myself turning to online dating in the hopes of meeting a decent someone and while i believe the chances run the same percentages as winning the lotto what other choices do i have? Apparently people don't meet organically anymore so here i am.
About Her Ideal Match
My ideal match is someone who can forgo the romantic chemically imbalanced first part of the relationship where we all try to impress and attract our new mates and skip directly to 2 years down the line where you actually start getting to know the real person, the time when you finally feel comfortable to be who you actually are and release the asshole within. (Whoa! we all have the capacity to be assholes so its not just a guy thing) In other words to be completely honest and transparent about who you really are. Im looking for someone REAL not an idea of someone. Tired of investing my time and heart on people only to realise that despite being told what a perfect partner you are and how honest and faithful you were that in actual fact you are a lying cheating selfish moron that i just wasted 4 years of my life with.
Not looking for a hookup so if that's your intention please scroll on. Im here to give it one final go at finding a man that can restore my faith in humanity, i say humanity because its not a woman vs man thing both sexes these days seem to treat infidelity and lies as "part of the Package" i 'm just not built like that. Looking for old fashioned values when men were men and woman were something to be cherished and loved and respected. Its long shot but who knows maybe there are still some people like me left in the world.
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About Her
Country of Origin: |
South Africa | |
Location: |
Hillcrest, KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
46 | |
Star Sign: |
Scorpio | |
Height: |
181cm (5' 11.3") | |
Body Type: |
Athletic | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair Colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Brown | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
English | |
Other Languages: |
Ask me later | |
Religion: |
Christian / Other | |
Relationship Status: |
Divorced | |
Looking for: |
Friends; Open to possibilities; Long-term; Marriage | |
Have Children: |
No | |
Want Children: |
Maybe | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Regular | |
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | |
Education: |
Some University / College | |
Occupation: |
Administrative / Secretarial | |
Income: |
Solvent |
About Her Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in South Africa | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age Range: |
35 - 58 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
167cm (5' 5.7") - 210cm (6' 10.7") or taller | ||
Body Type: |
Average; Athletic; A few extra pounds; Stocky | ||
Looks: |
Beauty contest winner; Very Attractive; Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair Colour: |
Any | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | ||
Home Language: |
Afrikaans; English | ||
Other Languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Christian / Catholic; Christian / Protestant; Christian / Other; Spiritual, but not religious; Christian / Orthodox | ||
Relationship Status: |
Any | ||
Have Children: |
Any | ||
Want Children: |
Any | ||
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker; Occasional; Regular | ||
Drinking: |
Non-Drinker; Occasional Drinker; Regular Drinker | ||
Education: |
Any | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Comfortable; Wealthy |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More About Her
Hair Style: |
Straight |
Eyesight: |
I sometimes wear glasses |
Body Art: |
Pierced ears |
Sense of Humour: |
Witty |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The heart |
Party Behaviour: |
The life of the party |
Personality Traits: |
Funny; Intelligent; Outgoing; Outspoken; Realistic; Sarcastic |
Valued Qualities: |
Faithfulness; Honesty; Humour; Patience |
Fashion Sense: |
Casual (I'm usually in my favourite jeans) |
Favourite Colour: |
White |
Date Activities: |
Attending a sporting event; Dinner at a restaurant; Going out dancing; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks |
Music Preferences: |
Dance / Disco; Instrumental; New Age; Opera; Pop / Top 40; R&B / Soul; Rock; World |
Reading: |
I love it |
Books: |
Crime; Fiction |
TV Habits: |
I watch a few favourite shows each week |
TV Shows: |
Action / Adventure; Cartoons; Comedy / Sit-coms; Documentaries; Movie Channels; Nature / Wildlife; Sport |
Movie Frequency: |
I wait for movies to come out on DVD or online. |
Movie Preferences: |
Action; Comedy; Mystery; Romance |
Interests: |
Board games; Card games; Cooking; Photography; Reading |
Sport Involvement: |
A regular competitor |
Sports: |
Athletics; Horse Riding; Rugby; Snooker; Swimming |
Cooking: |
I quite like cooking |
Food: |
Fine Dining; Greek; Italian; Japanese; Seafood; South African; Sushi |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Manageable |
Time at Work: |
I work a standard 40 hour week |
Pastimes of choice: |
Pursuing a hobby |
Time Online: |
I'm on several hours a day |
Take Drugs: |
Never |
Family Size: |
I'm an only child |
Family Closeness: |
We're very close |
Relationship Type: |
Ask me later |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'd consider it |
Animals: |
I love my pet(s) |
Pets (Have): |
Dog(s); Exotic pet(s); Horse(s) |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Cat(s); Fish; Rodent(s) |
Pets (Dislike): |
Reptile(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Dancing; Intelligence; Showing affection in public; Tattoo(s) |
Turn-offs: |
Long hair |
Work Aspirations: |
Work fewer hours |
Religious Attendance: |
I'm non-practicing |
Dream Home: |
Cottage in the country |
Politics: |
I have no interest in politics |
Retirement Plans: |
At home with a good book |
Feelings about using DatingBuzz South Africa: |
Hopeful; Jaded |
Honesty: |
Extremely |