In His Own Words
About Him
Dance with me:
It doesn't interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart's longing.
It doesn't interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.o
It doesn't interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life's betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it or fix it.
I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.
It doesn't interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"Yes."
It doesn't interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn't interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me and not shrink back..........
Contact me:otagjtaldw
About His Ideal Match
It would be awesome if you could be a young at heart, loving, caring, understanding person with respect. If you love nature and animals then that makes two of us. I don't ask much; just a nice smile on your face will turn the world around. It is always healthy to have your own space and time for each other- so if you understand it we will be big buddies. There is time to work and fun times to play and that balances life. Life is awesome.
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About Him
Country of Origin: |
South Africa | |
Location: |
Jeffreys Bay, Eastern Cape, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
57 | |
Star Sign: |
Taurus | |
Height: |
182cm (5' 11.7") | |
Body Type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Average | |
Hair Colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Green | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
Afrikaans | |
Other Languages: |
English | |
Religion: |
Spiritual, but not religious | |
Relationship Status: |
Single | |
Looking for: |
Activity partners; Friends; Open to possibilities; Long-term | |
Have Children: |
No | |
Want Children: |
No | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
Occasional | |
Drinking: |
Regular Drinker | |
Education: |
High / secondary school | |
Occupation: |
Technical / Science / Engineering | |
Income: |
Solvent |
About His Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in South Africa | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age Range: |
35 - 48 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
160cm (5' 3.0") - 190cm (6' 2.8") | ||
Body Type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic | ||
Looks: |
Average; Attractive | ||
Hair Colour: |
Any | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Decidedly important | ||
Ethnicity: |
Coloured; Indian; Latino/Hispanic; Middle Eastern; White/Caucasian; Mixed | ||
Home Language: |
Any | ||
Other Languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Buddhist / Taoist; Hindu; Spiritual, but not religious; Other | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have Children: |
No | ||
Want Children: |
No | ||
Daily Diet: |
Any | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker; Occasional | ||
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | ||
Education: |
High / secondary school; Current University / College Student; Some University / College; Technical Diploma; Associates degree | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Solvent; Enough; Comfortable |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More About Him
Hair Style: |
Medium |
Eyesight: |
I sometimes wear glasses |
Facial Hair: |
I'm clean-shaven |
Body Hair: |
Smooth |
Disabilities: |
I have none |
Body Art: |
A tattoo or two |
Sense of Humour: |
Dry |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The head |
Party Behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality Traits: |
Daring; Easy going; Funny; Intelligent; Mild; Naive; Optimistic; Outgoing; Quiet; Realistic; Sarcastic; Shy; Silly |
Valued Qualities: |
Charity; Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Devotion; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Hope; Humour; Kindness; Mercy; Moderation; Patience; Self-control; Sexiness; Tolerance |
Fashion Sense: |
Contemporary (I'm cool, but I don't need labels) |
Favourite Clothing: |
My trusty pair of jeans |
Favourite Colour: |
Green |
Date Activities: |
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Attending a sporting event; Dinner at a restaurant; Going out dancing; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Walking on the beach |
Music Preferences: |
Alternative; Blues; Broadway / Theatrical; Classical; Dance / Disco; Electronic Dance Music; Instrumental; Jazz; Latin; New Age; Pop / Top 40; Reggae; World |
Reading: |
It's just OK |
Books: |
(Auto)biographies; Business; Sci-Fi; Science / Technology; Self-help; Travel |
TV Habits: |
I don't have a TV |
TV Shows: |
Action / Adventure; Comedy / Sit-coms; Documentaries; Educational; Game shows; Movie Channels; Music Channels; Nature / Wildlife; News; Reality shows; Sci-Fi; Talk shows; Variety shows |
Movie Frequency: |
I wait for movies to come out on DVD or online. |
Movie Preferences: |
Action; Adult; Comedy; Documentary; Drama; Romance; Sci-Fi |
Interests: |
Auto repair; Business news; Card games; Collecting stamps, coins, etc.; Computer & video games; Computer programming; Gardening; Healthy living; Investing; Meditation; Photography; Shopping; Surfing the Internet; Yoga |
Sport Involvement: |
Watching from the sidelines |
Sports: |
Athletics; Basketball; Birdwatching; Bowling; Camping; Canoeing; Chess; Cycling; Dancesport; Darts; Hiking; Running; Snooker; Softball; Surfing; Swimming; Table Tennis; Volleyball; Walking |
Cooking: |
I cook rather than starve |
Food: |
Chinese; Doesn't matter; Fast food; French; Greek; Indian; Italian; Japanese; Seafood; South African; Sushi; Thai |
Go Out to Eat: |
I only eat out on special occasions |
Pace of Life: |
Organised |
Time at Work: |
I work a standard 40 hour week |
Pastimes of choice: |
Spending time outdoors |
Time Online: |
I check in once a day |
Take Drugs: |
Never |
Family Size: |
I've got a sister |
Family Closeness: |
We're very close |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'd consider it |
Animals: |
I love my pet(s) |
Pets (Have): |
Dog(s) |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Cat(s); Exotic pet(s); Fish |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Dancing; Erotica; Flirting; Intelligence; Showing affection in public; Power; Skinny dipping; Tattoo(s) |
Turn-offs: |
Sarcasm |
Work Aspirations: |
Work fewer hours |
Religious Attendance: |
I'm non-practicing |
Dream Home: |
Beach house |
Politics: |
Liberal |
Retirement Plans: |
Exploring the 7 Wonders of the World |
Feelings about using DatingBuzz South Africa: |
Optimistic |
Honesty: |
Extremely |
