So we're all here to find someone, so I'm going to up the ods of you not looking too dodge on the internet.
Here's a few home truths and tips.
WEAR A SHIRT IN YOUR PROFILE PIC..... Yes, there are far too many shirtless pics of guys out there and it's just a bit awkward. Chicks are only really ready to run their fingers through your curly black chest hair after they're your girlfriend. Before that is too soon.
IF YOU'VE GOT A SIX PACK AND ROCK HARD PECS.... STILL WEAR A SHIRT IN YOUR PROFILE PIC. Unless you're looking for an internet shag (which is almost impossible to find on a legitimate dating site as a guy), you are likely to come off as vain. Admittedly any girl would delight in having a guy with a good bod, but displaying it on a public profile is not the best way to do it.
DON'T TALK ABOUT SEX IN YOUR PROFILE. Sex might be very important to you in a relationship, and essential to keep the spark going. Believe it or not, women want to know that you're a sexual fiend that desires every inch of them, but talking about your unwavering sexual appetite in your profile makes you come across as a pervert.
DON'T MENTION YOUR EX. It sounds logical, but you wouldn't believe how often this sneaks into your profile. You are allowed to be hurt and have baggage, but desperation and neediness have never been great attractors of women. Save it for the 2nd date at least.
DON'T MARK "VERY ATTRACTIVE" IN YOUR PROFILE. If you have to tell someone you're "very attractive" then chances are you're not. And if you are indeed very attractive, no woman wants' to think that you dig yourself enough to say so. Most women want a man that is hot, but doesn't know it, or hot and doesn't give a sh*t about his looks because he's just so rugged &manly. "Attractive" is the highest that you should go here, even if you believe you're an Adonis. And just FYI, if you believe you're an Adonis, then possibly that's why you've had to resort to internet dating.
About Her Ideal Match
NOW ABOUT THE ACTUAL DATING:
So you've gotten a first date! Well done.
Well now it's all up to that elusive thing they call chemistry, but there are a few things that can help you get to the 2nd date.
Here they are:
ALWAYS PAY FOR THE FIRST BILL. There is such a thing as equal rights and so forth, but skirting around the first bill, makes you come across as cheap. And no lady dreams of being with a stingy guy. So if you are in fact cheap, rather go for a coffee date, so the bill will only cost you R30. Long term this isn't a factor and you can both pay for dinner, but the first bill is a biggy, so don't screw up your chances because the scrooge in you reared its head.
MAKE AN EFFORT. After that 1st date, there's nothing more lack-lustre than an unenthusiastic guy. If you like her make an effort to get in touch early. No woman wants to know that you have luke-warm feelings for her. So get off her ass and start hunting the way God intended. Don't be a sloth on this one. Make your intentions known and sweep her off her feet. Lets face it: In this world of internet dating, there's nothing easier than moving on, so don't hesitate when it counts. And although "there are more women-fish in the sea", remember: you had to resort to internet dating, which means the chicks are not swarming in. So if you like someon be bold and make it happen.
And finally, my last tip: DON'T LET SLIP ABOUT HOW YOU WANT TO LATHER HER IN MAYONNAISE AND LICK HER FROM TOP TO BOTTOM. (True story). Keep this in your head idiot. Obviously you want to do that, and if all goes well, it'll happen someday. But there's nothing like the threat of rape in the air for a girl to high-tail it out of there and delete your number.
So all in all it's not that difficult. And if Internet doesn't work for you get off the couch and get out there! Hunt for goodness sake. Dig deep and find those primal instincts that made you approach a girl in your student days. You can always numb the fear with a beer or 2.