In His Own Words
About Him
Ek het 'n artikel gelees oor 'n ou wat geskei is na 16 jaar en die lesse wat hy geleer het...dit is waarna ek streef wanneer ek eendag so gelukkig is om my deksel te vind! (verkorte weergawe)
1) Never stop courting.
Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted.
2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART.
Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.
3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER again.
SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don't take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.
4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her.
Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged.
5) IT'S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER...
Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing.
6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions:
You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility.
8) Allow your woman to JUST BE.
When she's sad or upset, it's not your job to fix it, it's your job to HOLD HER and let her know it's ok.
9) BE SILLY
Don't take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY
Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and CHERISHED.
11) BE PRESENT
Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul.
12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY.
To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength to the deepest levels of her soul.
13) DON'T BE AN IDIOT.
And don't be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she.
About His Ideal Match
If you are kind hearted, honest and love to cuddle... If you like to be spoiled, treated like a princess......then I'm your guy!
I am looking for someone to be my best friend, my soulmate, my lover, my partner, my everything! Yes, I am a hopeless romantic!
Natuurlik moet daar 'n konneksie ook wees, op intellektuele, emosionele en fisieke vlak! Daar moet sparks wees! Maar vriendskap is baie belangrik....sonder vriendskap kan 'n romantiese verhouding nie hou nie!
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Vervolg...
14) GIVE HER SPACE
Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids.
15) BE VULNERABLE
Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT
If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING.
17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER
The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool.
18) DON'T WORRY ABOUT MONEY.
Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it.
19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past.
20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE.
In the end, this is the only advice you need. Love will always endure.
What His Friends Say
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About Him
Country of Origin: |
South Africa | |
Location: |
Pretoria (Faerie Glen), Gauteng, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
54 | |
Star Sign: |
Taurus | |
Height: |
180cm (5' 10.9") | |
Body Type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair Colour: |
Light Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Blue | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
Afrikaans | |
Other Languages: |
English; German | |
Religion: |
Christian / Other | |
Relationship Status: |
Single | |
Looking for: |
Activity partners; Friends; Open to possibilities; Long-term; Marriage | |
Have Children: |
Yes, living with me sometimes | |
Want Children: |
Ask me later | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | |
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | |
Education: |
Postgraduate degree | |
Occupation: |
Labour / Construction | |
Income: |
Comfortable |
About His Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in South Africa | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age Range: |
21 - 43 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
145cm (4' 9.1") - 183cm (6' 0.0") | ||
Body Type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic; A few extra pounds; Curvaceous | ||
Looks: |
Beauty contest winner; Very Attractive; Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair Colour: |
Blonde; Dark Blonde; Light Brown; Dark Brown; Auburn; Red; Black; Changes Often; White; Other | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | ||
Home Language: |
Afrikaans; Danish; Dutch; English; Finnish; French; Gaelic / Irish; German; Italian; Norwegian; Polish; Romanian; Russian; Spanish; Swedish; Other | ||
Other Languages: |
Afrikaans; Danish; Dutch; English; Finnish; French; German; Italian; Norwegian; Polish; Romanian; Russian; Spanish; Swedish | ||
Religion: |
Agnostic; Christian / Catholic; Christian / Protestant; Christian / Other; Spiritual, but not religious; Other; Christian / Orthodox | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have Children: |
Any | ||
Want Children: |
Any | ||
Daily Diet: |
Any | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker; Occasional; Trying to Quit | ||
Drinking: |
Non-Drinker; Occasional Drinker; Regular Drinker | ||
Education: |
High / secondary school; Current University / College Student; Some University / College; Technical Diploma; Associates degree; Bachelors degree; Postgraduate degree; PhD / Post Doctoral | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Any |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More About Him
Hair Style: |
Short |
Eyesight: |
I sometimes wear glasses |
Facial Hair: |
I'm clean-shaven |
Body Hair: |
Average |
Disabilities: |
I have none |
Body Art: |
I don't have any |
Sense of Humour: |
Sophisticated |
Intelligence: |
Street Smart |
Ruled by: |
The heart |
Party Behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality Traits: |
Easy going; Intelligent; Optimistic; Shy; Stable |
Valued Qualities: |
Chemistry; Compassion; Devotion; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Patience; Sexiness |
Fashion Sense: |
Casual (I'm usually in my favourite jeans) |
Favourite Clothing: |
My trusty pair of jeans |
Favourite Colour: |
Blue |
Date Activities: |
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Walking on the beach |
Music Preferences: |
Country & Western; Dance / Disco; Pop / Top 40; Rock |
Reading: |
I love it |
Books: |
Best-sellers; Crime; Fiction; Mystery |
TV Habits: |
There're several shows I watch regularly |
TV Shows: |
Action / Adventure; Comedy / Sit-coms; Movie Channels; Music Channels; Sport |
Movie Frequency: |
Occasionally or irregularly |
Movie Preferences: |
Action; Comedy; Mystery; Romance |
Interests: |
Board games; Card games; Computer & video games; Cooking; Healthy living; Reading; Shopping; Surfing the Internet |
Sport Involvement: |
An active participant |
Sports: |
Chess; Cricket; Darts; Golf; Hiking; Horse Riding; Ice Hockey; Pool; Rugby; Snooker; Squash; Swimming; Table Tennis; Tennis; Walking |
Cooking: |
I quite like cooking |
Food: |
Chinese; French; Italian; South African |
Go Out to Eat: |
I only eat out on special occasions |
Dietary Restrictions: |
Sugar-free |
Pace of Life: |
Manageable |
Time at Work: |
I always put in overtime |
Pastimes of choice: |
Socialising with friends |
Time Online: |
I'm online more than I'm offline |
Take Drugs: |
Never |
Family Size: |
I've got a brother |
Family Closeness: |
We're average |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'd consider it |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Like): |
Cat(s); Dog(s); Horse(s) |
Pets (Dislike): |
Exotic pet(s); Reptile(s); Rodent(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Dancing; Flirting; Intelligence; Long hair; Showing affection in public; Skinny dipping |
Turn-offs: |
Power; Sarcasm |
Work Aspirations: |
Work fewer hours |
Religious Attendance: |
Rarely |
Dream Home: |
Beach house |
Politics: |
Liberal |
Retirement Plans: |
Sipping margaritas on a beach |
Feelings about using DatingBuzz South Africa: |
Hopeful |
Honesty: |
Extremely |
